How to manage yourself?

Life is full of problems and temptations, and very often we go on about our desires or sluggishly float through the waves of circumstances, having neither the strength nor the desire to resist them. The result in both cases causes negative emotions. We regret that we spent the money, having bought a lot of unnecessary things, did not dare to offer our candidature for a vacant place with a higher salary, did not hold back our emotions and fundamentally spoiled relations with our second half or teenage child.

In order not to fall into such situations, you need to know how to control yourself. The inability or unwillingness to learn this often leads to the fact that a person becomes a puppet in the hands of others, sometimes without even realizing it. Often having acted emotionally under the influence of the impulse, we can later regret the consequences that have come, sometimes even the whole life.

Keep emotions under control

There are a lot of situations where our emotions can bring trouble of different scale. The excitement of the exam or interview when applying for a job can interfere with getting the coveted score or position that you have dreamed of. The inability to cope with irritation is the cause of many domestic and sometimes service conflicts.In order to come out of any stress as a winner, you need not only to know how to manage your emotions, but also not to forget to put this into practice at the right moment.

Psychologists are advised to those who are worried about any occasion to learn relaxation techniques that can be applied even in a crowded place, for example, on an exam or before beginning an important presentation at a meeting.

One of these techniques is breathing exercises. You can perform the exercises standing or sitting, but always with a straightened spine and straightened chest. First, we recommend rhythmic breathing through the nose, for which one should alternately cover one nostril with a finger. Then breathing follows a pattern: inhaling through the right nostril - holding the breath - exhaling through the left nostril and vice versa. By the way, breath holding is described in many sources as a way to combat irritation.


In order to successfully cope with negative emotions, it is useful to try to understand what causes them. Often we are annoyed because of the fear of the unknown or the fear of not being able to cope with the task at hand, to be out of the height.In this case, it is necessary in a calm situation to mentally calculate the options, as if to live through the situation several times in different ways. Having experienced feelings, albeit unrealistic, it is worth assessing their importance to themselves. Often it turns out that the game is not worth the candle - that is, the expected consequences, which in fact turn out to be far from catastrophic.

To cope with the irritation that is caused by, in our opinion, the wrong behavior of other people, it is worth considering why they behave in this way. Not always for the fact that offends us, is evil intent. In order to make sure of this sometimes quite calm talk heart to heart.

On the occasion of desires

Those individuals who know how to learn to control themselves, as a rule, make a positive impression on others. People who are used to doing the �what their left foot wants,� do not inspire the confidence of their friends and make their lives very difficult. Psychologists help to cope with such inadequate behavior, but your own effort can bring results. The main thing is that a person should realize that his relatives suffer from his spontaneous actions.

For example, if a woman realizes that her every trip to the store makes a dent in the family budget, and things bought under the influence of a rush then gather dust around, you can enter a mode of reasonable economy. To do this, before the next raid on the supermarket you need to make a list of necessary for the purchase of goods and strictly adhere to it. Then it is necessary to calculate the approximate cost of the purchase and put in the wallet an amount not much higher than the value received. Credit card is best forgotten at home.

But fighting your desires is not always worth it. Sometimes they stimulate creative thinking, forcing us to find the option of additional income, which will help to get the ring that you like without harming the family.

Himself a psychologist

Psychology can teach a lot: how to control yourself, how to get rid of someone else's influence, how to increase stress resistance. If there is no opportunity to contact a psychologist or take a course of psycho training in person, you can ask for advice online, now many psychological support centers have their own websites. Another option is an independent study of the literature on this issue.

The greatest value for any person is his calm state of mind. The one who has lost peace cannot live normally, realize his dreams and bring joy to himself and those around him. External restraint, the need only to hide negative emotions do not benefit, as the stress is driven inside and accumulates, waiting for the hour when it will be possible to explode. In order for the house to be in order, it must be maintained. To live in harmony with your �I� and the whole world, you need to maintain your mental balance.