Why live abroad is not as good as we think?
Surely, almost every person, at least once in their life, but there were thoughts that somewhere to live better than in their own country. Of course, how many people, so many opinions, are a category of people who are trying in every way to go abroad, another category is only dreaming, and the third group is very skeptical.
And someone, sometimes even turns out to move to the country of his dreams, after which a person lives, he says, happily ever after. But is everything really that beautiful? Say with great confidence, no. Everywhere there are their pitfalls, which are not visible from the shore until you enter the water and stumble.
What is, in fact, moving? It is always nerves, a lot of problems and the establishment of new neighbors relations. And this is only from an apartment to an apartment in one city, but what about the move to another country? There is such an interesting opinion on this subject, they say that this is akin to rebirth.
After all, a person, like a small child, begins to re-learn a new language, tries to study and, importantly, to take cultural habits and the foundations of the country, tries to make new acquaintances. And, more often than not, an adult in this period faces a lot of difficulties, because it turns out to be not so easy to absorb a foreign culture, as well as to overcome the language barrier. Of course, much depends on the age and strength of the habits of the individual.
People who have been abroad only on vacation, can not understand why it is difficult to live abroad. After all, the second cousin of her mother's niece went abroad 5 years ago and says that the three-story cottages, white yachts and French wine - all this is quite real and easily acquired there.
Yes, and various thematic sites, which are literally full of proposals for emigration to America, Spain, Italy and other countries of the world, tell various myths about simple and fast adaptation. Numerous discussions at forums of such "knowledgeable" people say that everything is simple, you just have to want it. But, if you dig deeper, it may turn out that everything is completely different from what we think.
What really happens?
But in fact, if a person decided on such an important step and still bought a one-way ticket, then most often he goes through several standard stages of adaptation, which are almost impossible to avoid. Usually, mental and physical adaptation to life in a foreign country flows through four main points, the severity and degree of tolerance of which also depends on many factors.
First stage. "Fun"
This stage begins with the landing of the aircraft in the country of which you dreamed half a life. You feel that at last something has worked out for you, you have achieved what you wanted, coming to a new country where everything is new and exciting adds a good mood, a person is in a state of euphoria and happiness. That's just a month or two passes, if not earlier, and the person smoothly moves to the second step.
The second stage. "Fear"
And this is where the fun begins. A person begins to realize that it is good to live where you understand, at least, what people talk about around you, and abroad everything is quite different. And all the myths that in half a year of life a person is already so infused that he begins to speak fluently in the local language is not confirmed at all.
Yes, there is some truth, one out of ten starts to speak freely, and the rest remain at the stage of “Hello, my name is Vanya” and “How to go to some street”. All popular free courses for emigrants, which are so vividly told, do not help much, because teachers lack any motivation.
All this starts to affect the fruitless search for work, because employers are not in a hurry to accept tongue-tied comrades into their ranks. In addition to all this, a person begins to realize that all those, at first glance, wonderful trifles and amenities, which very often abroad, are beginning to annoy, the foundations of life seem irrational and inadequate.
Any sphere of life becomes inexplicable, and people who initially seemed so friendly and kind, began to resemble artificial dolls, which, in fact, do not care what happens to you. Immediately I remember the home and friends who stayed there, all the bad things are forgotten, but only the good is remembered, the person begins to grieve madly. And the question of where to live better, abroad or in your home country, seems stupid. After all, the answer is simple - visiting is good, but at home is better!
Step Three. "Fight"
And here everything is aggravated. A person is already so homesick that he starts planning a return journey. However, he decides to give himself one last chance and enters the fight. It is at this stage that many emigrants break down and leave all that they have been for so long.
But those who decided to try, begin to draw closer to the surrounding people and, even in time, find friends. The person adapts and understands that he begins to like. Many things have ceased to annoy, and culture has become clearer, and many stupid, at first glance, things have become explainable and important.
And here you understand that you have entered the last, fourth stage of “survival” in a foreign country - this is the final straight, the path to happiness and tranquility.
Difficulties and problems of immigrants in a foreign country
However, those stages, which we listed above, are only a common core, which everyone has with his difficulties. Someone easier, especially young people and children, and someone can be very hard, this applies to older people and people in age. By the way, the presence of a decent education plays an important role.
- The language barrier. And, in order not to be told, mastering the language, it turns out, is not so easy, especially at such a level as to study and find work abroad.Many are faced with the fact that having moved to another country, for a long time they cannot fully express their thoughts, as well as understand what the local residents are talking about.
- Bureaucratic complexity. It will take a lot of time to deal with all the papers and documents that need to be drawn up, filled out and paid in time. And a visa and a residence permit are just the beginning, followed by various types of registration, permits, and so on and so forth.
- Loneliness. It is only at first glance it seems that the search for new contacts and friends is an everyday matter, they say, it will accompany your reasoning in a new country anyway. Over time, a person begins to realize that it is difficult to find a good friend, and if a language barrier is also reported here, then there is a feeling of helplessness.
One conclusion can be made: one can live abroad, but it is necessary to put a lot of effort into this, become a purposeful person, do not be lazy and actively learn a language, because it can be a great barrier to normal life abroad in all its aspects and manifestations.